Slow Down Big Boy

I turned 29 this past weekend. Birthdays for me tend to be a time to reflect on the previous year and look forward to the next.

My Birthday cake that got smashed during delivery

My reflections:

Life has been flying by recently. I almost cannot believe that I graduated college over 7 years ago, have been living in New York City for over 3 years, and have been married for over 2 years.

And…this year has been awesome:

-Some very close friends and family got engaged and/ or married (Jack and Esti, Ezra and Tally, Simon and Ruthy, Joyce and Teddy, Dustin and Lindsey, Jenn A and Josh, Jenn J and Graeme)

-I have made some great new friends

-My father is in stable health after about 2 years of struggling with cancer

-I am married (it is still exciting)

-We had a pretty good year at work

One thing that helped make this year awesome was that I was able to stop and appreciate the awesomeness as it was going on. There were a couple different routines that helped me facilitate that:

Family Meetings:

Lorraine and I have a family meeting every week. We treat our family unit like a startup, even though there are only two of us. We established an overarching vision for our family and some short-term goals. During our meetings we touch on the different goals to see what we are doing well, and what we could do better. Recently we pinpointed that we have not done a great job of nurturing our friendships and are making an effort to do so more. The meetings are a great way to analyze what has happened over the last seven days and move forward with intention into the next seven.


There have been many unforeseen benefits to blogging, and one of them is that in the pursuit of new topics to write about I have become more aware of the things going on around me that might be blog-worthy.

Small Celebrations:

I try to have regular small celebrations. For example, this past year Lorraine went through a roller coaster of a career change. From one real estate firm to another, then deciding she wanted to leave real estate all together, starting to apply to new roles, turning down four offers that weren’t a good fit, and going through a four month process to get her current job (WeDidIt!). Each event was a reason for a small celebration: a beer here, a dinner there. Each small celebration helps create another memorable occasion that made the year great.

Looking forward to this upcoming year, I hope that it brings even more happiness and good times. Regardless of what happens, I plan to continue to add small and large milestones to slow down the ever-faster passage of time.

Happy Thanksgiving

Slow Down Big Boy

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