I do not do well with being told what I can or cannot do. Am I stubborn? Yes, a little. But that is not necessarily a bad thing.
I want to tell you a story:
Two years ago I was working on my computer, when spots appeared in my left field of vision. Then my left arm went numb, then the left side of my face went numb.
So I did what anyone would do, I went straight to the emergency room I Google-ed the symptoms. The internet told me that I was having a stroke, so I went straight to the emergency room. “Stroke… can’t be” (my internal dialogue doesn’t believe much).
It did scare me enough to go to my primary care doctor, who then sent me to get an MRI and to see a neurologist.
Two weeks later I had my diagnosis: aural migraines. I got a migraine that was so intense that it caused numbness and loss of vision. According to her, the migraines would get progressively worse until I was 40, and there was nothing I could do about it. That part I refused to believe.
Six months later it happened again. So I got another MRI and went to see a different neurologist. Same diagnosis.
I asked the doctor what I could do — I was eager to get rid of the migraines. He had me keep a food and migraine diary to help me understand what food might be affecting the headaches. Then he instructed me to cut specific ‘problem’ foods out of my diet to see how it impacted the migraines.
I started with hummus. If I was going to have to give up hummus, I needed to know, ASAP. But I still had headaches: Hummus was allowed.
After a couple months, it was time to give up coffee. One week, no headaches. Two weeks, no headaches. It has been almost six months now, migraine free.
I am not 100% that the cause of my migraines was coffee. But I am sure I would have kept looking for a way to make them stop, even if they never would. My stubbornness is persistence to explore new possibilities and try to get to the core of an issue. It helps me turn “no” into “yes”.